Q: My cat cuddles nice with me and then bites me. The bite isn't hard enough to break the skin, and then he licks the spot he bit. What is this all about?
A: The answer is a kiss. Yes, your cat is kissing you! Have you ever kissed your cat? Well, cats don't have lips they can pucker, so they bite - just enough to let you know they are biting, and then they follow it with a lick or two to be sure they didn't bite you too hard. Your cat is appreciative of your attentions.
If your cat is angry, there will not be a lick, and sometimes your cat will be happy without the lick. The lick is a way for your cat to judge how much pressure to put into a bite and not draw blood. Once your cat has that figured out, the licks will stop, but the bites won't. You will be able to tell your cat's mood by watching the tail. If your cat is happy, the tail tip will flick slightly, and if the cat is angry or annoyed, the whole tail, from the base out, will move. Some cats are more expressive than others. Only time with your cat will allow you to read it's mood with any accuracy.
Q: My cat attacks me while I'm reading or watching TV. What is this all about? I'm getting afraid of my cat!
A: Your cat is trying to become "Alpha" over you! Stare your cat down. This may take some practice and patience, but it can be done. Firmly redirect your cat's attention to an interactive toy. Your cat may chirp or make other sounds to get your attention, letting you know it is about to "attack" you. This is the signal that you need to stare the cat down.
The cat may challenge you - just remember who opens the cat food! You do! Your cat needs a lesson in manners. DO NOT MISHANDLE OR HIT YOUR CAT! This will make the situation much worse. If your cat is challenged and hurt, all bets are off and that cat will win at any cost. This may include scratching, biting and other objectionable behaviors.